Coming of Age

At A Glance Author anonymous Artist Pierre Black Studio Black Sun Studio Location Montreal, QC

COMING OF AGE

I'm 43 this year. I thought being fortish would mean being settled in my ways and, when I was in my twenties, I thought fourties meant knitting, cooking and the occasional cocktail party. Yet I've never felt more excited, liberated and free to explore my life and my sexuality.

I just had a triangle piercing done and, as I look at it, I'm amazed at how beautiful it is. Someone explained the triangle piercing as a cock ring for the clit and I can now agree with authority.

I chose this particular piercing as an expression of who I am today, strong and beautiful; a coming of age of sorts. I've read about different people getting pierced for all kinds of reasons... it's the thing to do, it's hip, a few drinks later, rebelling against the set norm, etc. Then there are others who come to this decision because that's where their path lead them. Since the beginning, my earliest fantasies as I masturbated involved bondage and controlled pain. I thought I was weird, different and very much alone. Out loud and in public conversations I would declare this fantasy to be unacceptable and keep this secret to myself.

Last year, being with a man I finally put my trust in, I told my husband about my secret thoughts and what really turned me on. Even though I trusted him not to judge me harshly, his acceptance and interest still surprised me. He then played with me in the way I had always dreamed a man would and our bond has not stopped growing since then. We also started to go to places which sold fetish oriented articles and slowly our collection of toys has grown.

The first time I saw pierced female genitals was in a porn movie we watched one night. I was completely fascinated and turned on by one of the female stars who a ring through her genitals and that night, the desire to have my clit pierced was born. Still, my thoughts were conflicting; ouch pain and hummm pain!

We recently acquired a computer and got hook up to the net. I immediately started to look for genital piercings and generally exploring my options, looking for what kind of genital piercing I would want. I finally found this site. The interest keep mounting and when one of my girlfriends told me last month she had her nipple pierced, I knew then and there all I needed was the address of a piercer.

I quickly dismissed my earlier desire for a clit piercing after reading that the scaring could actually take away any sensations in the clit. Sorry but that little part of me is just too important! During the course of many conversations, my husband John suggested two labia piercing but when I kind of went for the hood piercing. The next step was to find a reputable piercer here in Montreal.

Ironically, I found the studio looking through the yellow pages. Black Sun Studio - blacksun@videotron.ca - in Montreal is by appointment only and, at least sounded professional when I called. As suggested by so many, I made an appointment to go see the premises beforehand. I was pleased and reassured to see it was clean, calm and inviting. The staff took John & I around and answered all of our questions. Then and there I took an appointment for Friday the 17th of September and that brings you, the reader, up to date.

Tonight was the night. I was nervous and excited but calm and determined. Stephanie-Anne, one of the girls on staff, spoke to me about the aftercare and her own triangle experience. After signing papers basically stating I knew what I was getting myself into and the recognized the possible risky consequences, we were introduced to the piercer and owner of the Black Sun Studio, Pierre. He mentioned that he had done 2 triangle piercing just this morning and how this piercing was becoming quite popular. We talked about jewelry, gages and of course, instruments. At his suggestion, I chose a 14 gage bead ring made of surgical steel with a middle bead featuring my birth stone.

After slipping on yet another new pair of latex gloves, Pierre looked at me and said: "Are you ready?" As an answer, off came my pants. He examined me and pronounced me an excellent candidate for this type of piercing. After wiping me with disinfectant, he used a small type of clamp to locate and hold the shaft of my clit and then marked the area he was going to pierce.

The actual piercing was quick. Pierre said: "Take a couple of deep breath" and, as I'm exhaling my second, the deed was done. I won't lie; the pain was sharp and intense but erotic, and quickly over. I had purposely not thought of the pain that would be involved in this procedure because I honestly did not know how I would react to it, but my only reaction was a sharp intake of breath through my teeth and that was it. He then inserted the jewelry I had chosen. I had heard that there could be a lot of bleeding but, in my case, I bleed very little - only a couple of drops. John, who was present through the whole experience agreed with me: it was awesome!

The next day, I actually went walking in the Village and went dancing. My jeans were a little too tight but, as I looked at people who were passing by me, I felt a little taller than usual, more beautiful and certainly stronger.

One thing, I've been totally rigid with my cleaning regiment: a ¼ teaspoon of Hepson Salt and ½ a teaspoon of Proviodine Solution dissolved in ½ a cup of warm water, 2 to 3 times a day. I make sure it's always a fresh solution and that my hands are clean. I soak the area for 5 to 10 minutes each time and rotate the ring as much as I can right after. It was sensitive for a couple of days but I can now say it's healing quite well. John and I made love this morning for the first time. John loves the ring and can't wait to manipulate it without the fear of it somehow tearing.

Almost a week later, as I sit here telling you my story, I can feel my jewelry that's like a lover, putting a slight pressure on my clit and holding on. Maybe, just maybe, I'll get the labia done once this one has healed. I also saw this incredibly beautiful nipple jewelry composed of a silver shield and sword going through the nipple! Who knows... the possibilities are endless today!