I want to write about my experiences with my clitoral piercing, done 4 wonderful years ago. It was a strange decision to make at the time, but I have never regretted that decision.
At A Glance Author KayDee When Five years ago Artist Kirsten Hart Studio Leamington Spa Location England Following the birth of my daughter, I was left quite disabled in my pelvic region. I found walking, exercise and sex very painful. My daughter was ill, and my marriage began to fail. I felt very un-womanlike.
In January 2001 I separated from my husband. He ran off with a man and I felt completely humiliated. For years, my sexual fantasy had involved my having a pierced clitoris, and I decided to re-enable my womanhood.
I had begun a love affair with an old friend, and I decided to do something for him: something so different from my outward appearance, and something intimate for him.
My best friend used to be a body piercer and she had taught and old university friend of mine the same business. I knew that my university friend had been an "out" lesbian whilst I was there, so in many ways I felt comfortable letting her do the piercing.
My pregnancy had led me to a real fear of needles. This piercing was a challenge to me in many ways. But I was determined to go through with my decision and booked an appointment for the following week.
The day arrived and I stumbled, painfully, up the rickety spiral staircase to my friend's sterile and well-kitted studio. We chatted awhile. She had known me and my ex-husband from my university days, so we broke the ice with typical female gossiping. But we all knew what was coming up.
I lay on the couch and my boyfriend held my hand. My friend told me I was having a vertical piercing and that it would only hurt for a moment.
I was really scared and as the needle went in I screamed. I'd love to say that I was brave, but I wasn't. I could say that it was my disabled pelvis reacting badly to my legs being spread, but it wasn't. In truth, the piercing really hurt. But it was over in a minute and then I left and went to my car to drive back to my mother's house.
It felt a bit sore at first, but 10 minutes later the pain completely left. By the time I had driven (yes I DROVE the car) to my mother's house it was completely fine.
I was really proud of myself. I had survived natural birth, caesarean section and a clitoral piercing! I was definitely a woman, and a sexual one at that!
My mother was on the phone to my grandmother when I got to her home. When she saw me she asked, "Did you do it?" I said yes, and showed her. She laughed and said to my grandmother, "KD has just got in and Mimi has a silver tooth!"
After that this became a standing joke. Mimi had "come out!"
I was not allowed intercourse for 48 hours and then I needed to use a condom for the next week. This was uncomfortable, but I found that my urine was keeping the area sterile and the piercing was completely healed within a few days.
I found that I was constantly aroused and very much on heat. I still am permanently on heat, coming quickly and feeling orgasmic when I wear trousers.
My boyfriend, now husband, was delighted with my piercing. We found it stimulated his penis during sex, especially when I was on top. We managed to begin and sustain a varied and fun sex life, trying to minimise the pelvic pain that disabled me in everyday life.
My gay ex-husband had managed to knock the woman out of me. My piercing and my darling "new" man built it back up. He was a virgin when we got together, and I'm glad I could do something special just for him, as he did something special choosing me for his first lover, and then wife.
Many women say that childbirth is an unbearable pain, but once the baby comes along you soon forget it. I say that having a clitoral piercing is exactly the same. The benefits far outweigh the pain.
I have tried all kinds of jewellery. Some banana bars can irritate the area, but I wear a long bar now that rubs my clit under the hood all the time. Just thinking about it turns me on.
If you were reading this, wondering if you should go for a piercing, I would say DO IT. You will not regret it. Swallow your fear and think of the wonderful pleasure you and your lover will have.
One thing this experience has taught me and continues to remind me on my bad days: I may be disabled in life, but I am enabled sexually, and I have my wonderful piercing to thank for it.