The quest for a clitoral orgasm

At A Glance Author Jayne Contact goodythreeshoes@yahoo.com Artist Phil Studio The Beast Within Location Porthcawl, Wales, UK

I have been having sex with my boyfriend for about 1 year now. Don't get me wrong, it was and still is great, but I hadn't experienced a proper orgasm (if you have to question whether you've had one, you haven't). I had already had my nipples done and was extremele pleased with the sensual results, so I decided to go for a genital piercing. Phil is a good friend so i naturally went to him. He has started to train me in body piercing, but I hadn't seen a genital piercing done, so what better way than to have one done myself!

I made an appointment about 1 month before so I could prepare myself. I guess that part of the nerves came from revealing my genitalia to someone other than my boyfriend, and the other part was obviously the pain.

I had my hair cut just before, but as I sat there getting a totally new style, all I could think of was the piercing. I laughed with my boyfriend as we walked to the piercing parlour just down the road, but I felt a bit sick inside. He could feel me shaking and he said "are you sure this is something you really want to do?". I swallowed hard and sayed "yes, I can't back out now. If I do I will regret it". He was worried about me, but I knew he was also worried about our Millennium holiday; if it all went wrong we may not be able to have sex, and this holiday was planned partly to have the chance of a dirty week together. I was hopeful that everything would be ok. He had done an excellent job with my nipple piercings, which I vow I will never remove because they are a valuable part of my sex life. We entered the parlour and I was as ready as I would ever be.

Of course I was nervous but he put me at ease. He made a joke that if I was so nervous I should get my boyfriend to have his PA done at the same time, but my boyfriend being nothing like me was very scared at the idea! He chickened out, but I'll get him again! Phil suggested I have the clitoris hood done since there was a risk of loss of sensation with the actual clioris. His wife was there too, and she had it done, so she told me it was really not as bad as I may think. I took his advice since I did not want to sacrifice my libido for a piercing.

I felt so dumb asking the obvious questions:

"Does it hurt?"

"No not really."

"What does it feel like when you walk?"

"You won't even know it's there."

"Will it improve my sex life?"

"It does for some, and not for others. There's no way of knowing until you try."

And the all important...."How long do I have to wait before I can have sex?"

"About 1 week."

"Phew!"

It was cold, but I soon relaxed. He used a local anaesthetic first, and that was probably the most painful part. It burned for a while, but soon calmed down. He had to keep re-applying it until he was satisfied I was totally numb. I have never had a man so intently studying my genitalia before, and it was a very strange experience! I guess I just tried to keep the conversation flowing to avoid any awkward silences. There isn't much to say about the actual piercing because I didn't feel it, but when he showed it to me I loved it! I couldn't believe it was done. That night it did sting when the anaesthetic wore off, but it stopped hurting very soon. I was a little shocked at the blood I saw and I wore loose trousers for a week to stop it getting agitated. I certainly wasn't as conscious of it being there as I thought. I got many questions from friends, including the cliche "did it hurt?". To be honest it didn't, and many thought I was just being a martyr.

I timed it so that it had a week to heal before my Millenium holiday with my boyfriend (you know what I mean!). It has provided some extra sensation but I am a little disappointed. I am still learning how to stimulate it right, and it's all part of experimentation I guess. For a while I had to remind my boyfriend to be gentle with my piercing even if he is rough with my body! It can hurt if played with too roughly. I am really considering going for the clitoris piercing, but it's quite a risk to take. I am interested in the new Princess Albertina piercings, and Phil often likes to experiment so I may try it.