My wife and I are not your typical BME lurkers. We're in our 40s, working professionals, and naturists (aka 'nudists'). We're members of a local landed nudist club. Can there be such a thing as conservative nudism? Well, up until two years ago, this club did not allow visible body jewelry. Even now, only navel and nipple jewelry are permitted.
At A Glance Author 40something Contact 40something@bme.anon When A month ago Artist spouse Studio bedroom Location Cape Cod, MA As body jewelry worn by club members became more visible and common, my wife and I agreed that we were intrigued by this form of bodyart. She began talking this summer of getting a pierced navel, and after flirting with this idea back and forth, she finally decided that "I'll get pierced only if you get pierced in the same place". It's hard to argue with equality.
Despite never having given thought to getting pierced myself, picturing my wife with a beautiful navel dangle had appeal. But I couldn't see getting my own navel pierced, so we ultimately decided on getting our nipples horizontally pierced. After researching all the info on BME, we decided on simple 14g barbells to start. Assuming all went well, we could migrate later to CBRs. Being 40-something, we also couldn't see walking into the local bodmod shop, so we decided to pierce each other in the comfort and privacy of our own home.
Thanks to the BME Shop, we ordered four Anatometal 14g SS internally-threaded barbells, 3/8 inch for me and 5/8 inch for her. We also ordered 14g angiocath needles. Lastly, a bottle of xylocaine was purchased at the request of my wife. I'm a blood platelet donor and am used to getting pierced with 17g/18g needles in my arm, so the thought of a 14g needle going thru my small nip didn't cause worry. But my wife saw the xylocaine listed on the BME Shop website and wanted this "just in case".
On the appointed night, after a nice dinner and bottle of wine at a local eatery, we went back to our bedroom. A toasty 72 degrees, scented candles throughout, and pillows and cushions appropriately set up against the headboard completed the preparations. We had sterilized the BBs for 15 minutes in boiling water, together with a pair of forceps that I had.
My wife wanted to be pierced first. She sat up, and I marked the entry and exit points on each nipple. Next, I cleaned her left nip with a provodine wipe that I had picked-up at my last platelet donation. I then filled each of six 31g insulin syringes with 1.0cc of xylocaine (I give myself allergy shots every couple of weeks and had the syringes on hand). The insulin needles are only 3/8 inch long, and perfect for this purpose. I injected her at the base on each side of her nip, and after waiting a couple of minutes, was ready to begin positioning the forceps. These were quick sticks, and with the thin 31g needle, she hardly felt the pricks. She said there was a momentary burn as the first of the xylocaine slowly went in, but that was it. I was prepared to use additional xylocaine if needed.
With the forcep, I grabbed behind the nip on the areola making sure I pulled straight and had a clear view of where I was going to stick her with the angiocath. She could feel her skin being pulled taught, but the forceps were not felt at all because of the 2.0cc of xylocaine. She wanted the barbell positioned near the base of her nip, but up enough so the balls just touched her areola. I asked if she was ready....no breathing exercises....and after a short pause and gaze, she said "OK". I immediately began to slowly push the angiocath in and through the nip, going slowly to better align the entry and exit. When I saw that the tip of the needle had pierced thru, I continued to push a bit more until the white catheter sleeve began to show, all the while explaining to her what I was doing. I then withdrew the needle, leaving the cath in place. Next, I released one side of the forceps and inserted the barbell into the catheter. The barbell shaft fit perfectly into the hollow catheter and I withdrew the cath with the barbell going perfectly into position. The hardest part was screwing on the tiny ball onto the barbell shaft. No blood, no pain, just a quickened heartbeat and a faint outline of the forcep on the tip of the breast.
I held up a mirror for her and we were both pleasantly surprised at the results of that first effort. I asked if she was ready for her right nipple, but she said it was now my turn to get my left nip pierced. I wasn't ready for this sequence, but we traded positions on the bed. I prepped the area clean, and told her to mark and clamp me without need for the xylocaine. She did exactly that, and wowee, the teeth on the forcep sure hurt. Maybe I should have filed these down first, but I told her to tension the forcep just enough so as not to add to the discomfort. Because I have a short nipple, I thought the piercing should be as far down towards the base as possible. She got the forcep positioned and with my nod of approval, began the pierce. Understandably, she went agonizingly slow both to keep the pierce straight but also out of hesitancy. This probably took all of 30-45 seconds, but it was much longer than the 3-5 seconds for the nurses at the blood bank to stick my arm. Suffice it to say, that I was glad to see the needle and cath come out the other side. I walked her through releasing the clamp and threading the barbell which took 3-5 minutes in total. Again, the hardest part was fitting the tiny barbell on the shaft. There was one drop of blood that oozed out of the entry hole, but that was it.
We took a breather after this first round and grabbed a couple of glasses of wine from the kitchen. After the short break, she reassumed her position against the headboard and the right nipple prep was repeated except for the xylocaine. She wanted to experience this second piercing without any anesthetic, putting the burden on me to get everything right. When I started to position the forceps, I could see her grimace and bite her lip. I convinced her to take at least one shot of the xylocaine which wouldn't completely numb her and leave her with some of the mental rush. This was more a selfish act on my part as I didn't want to cause unnecessary hurt. With just the one shot of xylocaine, she hardly felt the needle entry, and only a little 'tug' on the exit side. Completing the insertion of the jewelry was quicker this time, only about 2 minutes. Unfortunately, the exit point was a bit too far up the nipple, not bad, but still noticeable.
It was my turn again for the right nip, and my wife handled this one all by herself. Practice does count in this type of thing. The only glitch this time around was her hitting the inserted needle with the forceps as she released the one side. I had a reflex jerk, but there wasn't any skin tear or any other damage. The barbell went in fine with a bit more bleeding than the other side, but nothing major.
We took a look of ourselves in front of the mirror and smiles came to our faces. After talking about getting pierced for five months, we finally did it. We now had matched piercings and a common, shared experience. BME Shop has everything necessary for the task, and makes for 'one stop shopping' for self-piercing. In our mind, there's nothing better than getting pierced by your spouse or significant other compared to getting pierced by a stranger. Still, nipple piercing isn't something to be done without doing research or talking to others that have piercing experience – both of which we did for those five months.
It's been three weeks now since the piercings, and there have been no problems in the healing process. For the first day, we covered the piercings with 2x2 gauze pads. We started off doing the sea salt soak a couple times/day with a shot glass. Showering with liquid Dial soap and Cetaphil cleanser. We had some itching in the first week and some crusties, but again nothing major. The barbells moved freely, though we did this gingerly at first. For me, the barbells caused my nipples to swell a bit, and if I had to do it again, I would have gotten ½ inch BBs instead of 3/8 inch. My wife had some swelling, but not to the same degree. Both of us have heightened sensitivity in the nipples, but nothing wildly sensual.
Once we took the gauze pad off, both of us had to adjust to dressing appropriately taking into consideration our new jewelry. I began to sleep in a t-shirt at night and take care in not putting on anything of a pull-over variety which could snag the BB. I used to carry my PDA in my shirt pocket, but no more as the pocket is directly over the nipple. My wife also thought pullover bras were a nuisance to the piercing, especially her exercise bra. She now sleeps with a loose padded bra to cushion any stray elbows at night from my side of the bed. And I've caught a few stares from other men in my gym's locker room which causes me some embarrassment. But that's about it for the downsides.
We're looking forward enjoying our new piercings and the day when we can change to more interesting jewelry. If all goes well, maybe my wife will consider getting her navel pierced....without calling for a double dare.