I've always had a obsession with body mods like most people here but my problem boiled down to my strict asian parents who will kill me if anything about myself stands out from the crowd. The need to conform is greatly emphasized in the Chinese community and so it makes it hard for me to do anything drastic to myself. I've always wanted a lip piercing but due to it's obviousness I have had to refrain. I've actually always thought ear stretching was kind of scary and tacky since most of the girls that do it at my school are tacky-goths that shop at Hot Topic and never wash themselves. The was was when i saw some girl take out a bloody lip smacker from her ears and apply it. That sight alone made me kind of sick, it looked gross.
At A Glance Author Shibbby Contact Shibbby@bme.anon When Six months ago One day I was working and I saw something shine in a girl's ears. I was curious and tried to get a better look at what were in her ears and turned out they were Dichro Spirals that were a nice hue of blue and green. I knew then that I had to have that. I wasn't even sure what they were until I did some research online and found out how the procedure of stretching went about. I educated myself on the topic and learned the general rule that I should go SLOWLY. I started off by buying a spiral type of taper that went from 20g to about 14g at my local goth store. They had costed me a fortune for something so small but naive me, I did not know that what I was paying was way overpriced. I was too excited anyways and did not care about the price. I took the spirals and I slowly eased them into my ears and my ears felt red hot and horribly sore the next morning. I didn't shove it all the way to 14g! I just went slowly since I've heard and seen horror stories. It took me about a month to get up to 14g. Next I purchased a talon type of taper that allowed me to go up to a 10g. Like last time I eased them into my ears and went very very slowly. I like to take things slow and a personal motto of mine is that it's better to be safe than sorry. I found that once I had hit 10g, everything became very easy. I also found that Ebay has a never ending supply of good quality tapers that are CHEAP and effective. I will never again buy tapers in a store.
Along the way I would rub my ear with tea tree oil and castor oil to soothe my ears. I also found that I liked tapering my ears with the spiral/talon type of tapers as opposed to the straight pointy tapers since they allow you to go slower and are more comfortable to sleep in and keep in your ear. Another tip is to try stretching your ears as soon as you get out of the shower since you skin is very elastic during that period and makes it a bit easier.
Going up in size became sort of addictive and I kept on buying larger until one day I finally bough myself the much anticipated Dichro spirals in 2g. They had costed me a pretty penny and arrived in the mail. My parents have this horrible habit of going thru my stuff and opened the package finding the spirals. They asked me what they were...I tried action cool and passing it off as me buying them for a friend but my mum was too sharp. She had finally had clued into what was happening and noticed my holes. Lots of screaming, crying and fighting occurred. It actually felt much like the time I had dyed my bangs bright pink. Not a pleasant situation. I was resistant on NOT taking them out since I have worked so hard to get them to this size! (about 6 months...yes, it took a lot of patience) We finally came to an agreement that I would not need to take them out but I will not go larger in size. My original plan was to hit 0g but I guess that was not meant to be.
To be fair, my parents are much more supportive than most Chinese parents I know of. They do put up with a lot of shit that I do and love me for it needlessly. I know that I bitch about them a lot and how strict they are but in the end we were raised in different environments and values so I do not blame them for it.
I still have my gauges to this day. It's been a couple of months and my parents occasionally "joke" about me taking them out. Of course I know they really do want them gone, I'm not personally sick of them yet. I know that as soon as I get bored I will take them out. As for now? I still love them.